New York City Bound

Hi All,
Question, what are you boys and girls doing on the 2nd of June. Its Gay Indie night on 38th St. Hey Lorrie, can you drive up to NYC and go to the movies with us, I promise some movie stars and autographs, from Charlie, Josh and Marian. Lorrie call me or Orr, you can just drive to his condo, "The Dakota" across from Central Park, he has a second spot underground on side street, can't remember, he can give you direction from Washington Bridge, to the condo. Bring Rob is he isn't on the Hill? Washington Boy. Orr has three guest rooms, 4 total. Will is coming in from Milan, cool, He loves you Lorrie, another Gay Boy for your harem Will has pre ordered the Christal one case!
Dinner at "The Four Seasons" a friend of ours is the assistance chef there, so service will be very personal. Maybe we can get a dish named after you, Lorrie.
Orr,
I will drive to NJ and will you meet me at the train station. I will leave the Mini Cooper there. I am not up to driving into the city. I will call you with my ETA from the GPS when I have a time frame of arrival.
Will, Orr will pick you up at Kennedy when you arrive, just give him a time and he will come for you, or if I'm in town, I'll come with Orr. Can't wait to see you.
I know I must be driving you all crazy, but I love talking to everyone together and sharing. Lorrie, if you want to bring Martha, do. Orr has a Yorkie who loves to play and for Orr, the more the merrier, the perfect host for all seasons.
Love to you all, can't wait to see you.
Joe

Sun and Speed boats

Hard to see my my blonde hair is even lighter, I am beet red, burntt
tomorrow is going to be a painful but a very calm and recharging M Day. Sad memories, for my nephew, Daniel, or as we cal him D as well. He left the Marines 4 years ago, honoral discharge. I is not being forces to teturn to service. 35 years old, two young sons, his wife doesn 't work, and his service time is left open, he is to go to Iraq, does not know for how long. He has to report in three weeks. He is a postman, so hopefully they will hold his job, but that is not a sure thing according to his boss, a federal jerk. Dee called me and asked me what to do, my options were move to Canada, but that will make it hard for him to return to the US for as long as the US is being a bitch, I suggested he tell them he is Gay, Even with a shortage, God forbit put a known Gay in the service, but that could be enought, I am checking with GLAD and HRC to see what type of record that leaves, I hope a non-record. He is totaly done with the Marines, 4 years in completed all requirements, but the government is calling him back to service with no legal right, and are threatening him with jail time. I am in a rage about the government and the lawlessness they operate in. We need a Coo, it wouldn't be the first time, remember Oliver Green and wanting to set up a collateral government and thank God he was stopped.

Sorry to give you a hard time, but, I understand excuses, and we do whaqt is necessary, and when we don't we make choices about how we equate our friendships, and it is that simple. We do what we are drawn to do. We make excuses for the things we don't want to do. And sometimes excuses I find personally are uncomfortable to hear from friends I care about and keep my word to. My word is no better than my actions. Actions always speak volumes, and I am feeling little energy is coming from you. I will hate to lose our friendship, but there are also several other friends in my life al over the globe who always keep in touch with me, are there for me when i really need a friend, and I see comparrison, now between friends. My life is short, with many serious stressors and I only have time for people who want me in their lifes as I want to be in their lives. I is that simple, no emotional stress or conflict, people share friendship and affection, not by excessive words but by actions. I know who I can count on if it be a physical favor, or just needing someone to talk to when I'm running scared. These are the true wealth in my life the last few years. And several friends also search me out for help, if just to listen to them and I am proud to do so. This personal interaction keeps me going. I have missed this in our relationship over the last three years. I am not even sure what we call what we have. I do know I have tried to be there in NC to help you through your surgeries, and was proud to do that, and flew to Seattle when I did at my own peril, but you take of a friend, two visits, last for a month. I will alway find time to be with you and help you, and
I have had similiar life challenges, but my actions were consistant with my words. If nothing I try to live by my spoken words. I find that hard, that you voice things, I know you believe at the moment, but don't follow through and never give and feedback. You are my only friend who I am never sure when you say or plan an event if it will happen. I have noticed this for a long time, but never trusted our friendship enough to say it in words. I am going to trust our friendship is strong enough to have this dialog of saying and doing what we say. I have been timmid on identifying this conflict in our friendship. A major lack of comminucation, I think fear based for the both of us. I want so dearly to trust you and what you say. This is a uncomfortable issue for me to address, but I feel it is harming our friendship, as well as lack of communicaton. I has a long drive from the lake and was thinking about conversation and the content of it and then my conversation with Lorrie. Timmy got a little bitchy with me, in a cute way, I arrived at the cottage at 2 pm was on the phone with you for a couple of hours, I loved our talk, and then I called Lorrie as we always do on holidays, and we talked till 5:30pm non stop. We had about 20 people there two boats going, my niece was really waiting for me to get off the phone. I came to the beach and was on the phone from 2:30 to 5:30 pm the youngins, in their twenties, Side bar, My neice ditched her boyfriend of 4 years, he was shirting around and Stacy told him to take a hike, one month later she has another boyfriend, who we all like better. The little fucker is charming as hell, two years older than Stacey, better than 5 years older, and he looks like Brad Pitts little brother, hot, overall.
Stacey was standing with Brian infront of 10 of us, and she was being affectionate with him, then put her left foot behind Brian, and raised her forarm and hit Brian on the chest and upper neck and laid him on his back and he never saw it coming. We laughted our asses off. Brian never saw or new that Stacey was going to lay him hot. I is about Stacey's hight, a little heaver, very strong, but his girlfriend laid him out infron of her whole family, he was so red, My brother has taught her several moves and I have showed her some skip tequices, using leverage to control a person, its knowledge, not strenght and unexpected speed and suprise. After his take down he would not stand to close to Stacey. Back to the boat, so I took the boat out with my brother's pleading, to not have to drive 8 teens through the lake and cause way. So I let the children untie the boat and move from dock, a bitch for a 28 foot speed boat. We had a 6 foot raft in tail with Stacey, Brian and Andrew and all kept screaming at me to stop driving like a old lady. I was going 45 miles per hour, a challenge, so I used the hydrallic lifters on the back, lifted them up for more speed, and I said, "Alright bastaeds, Hold on" I opened the throtle and we were hiting 60 miles per hour, and they were still wining, so we went 92 miles per hour, the raft ripped off and that is fucking fast to be on water, the wind, I had on clear glasses, so I could even see. Picked up the three wet littleones and on the way home we hit 101 miles per hour, they couldn't even sit in the boat, choppy water and we were on top of the water half the time. Shit, me driving my brother's 40 k boat at 101 mph, I almost ran out of lake, so the bank I had to make almost threw two kids out of the boat. So I became the new boat driver because I am crazy as shit and they know it. Timmy was asking me if I had a death wish or was I just trying to get read of some loud teenagers. The boat is not just past its 5 k miles and now needs to be conditioned, driving faster speeds so the clutch range is wide and not restristed. Like breaking in a new car at different speeds. I just loved scaring the shit out of Stacey , Brian and the other kis on board, COOL.
Well 12:45 am and I have a hospital staff meeting, that I have to present 5 patients, to the Grand round doctors, so two hours at the hospital and then home to paint my porch and then plant more flowers.
PLEASE, understand I am battling to save and revive a very special friendship. I'm sure we need more conversation, to look at our fears concerning this, we both have fears that could let our friendship drift, and that would be the death of it and I really don't want that to happen.
All my love,
Joe

And Paul

Life goes on in the big city

Well another day. Doctors, therapists, therapy, pt, then I had to deal with my Patience's. Life is strange. My father's estate is now about to close. Two and a half years with attorneys on the clock the entire time. We hope to finish by the end of this month, and the brothers can do nothing to effectively stop the legal proceedings. The summer air has begun starting yesterday. The trees around the house now blanketing the perimeter of the house. A 2 1/2 story house is totally hidden by trees, its wonderful. Summer has ushered in a grand start to summer. We are doing the usual summer transformations of the house, cleaning and setting up the porches for outside living. More trees will be added to the property. Paul and I have planted three Chinese Maples, 8 more rose bushes to join the current 25 bushes, now tomatoes, berries, pumpkins, herb garden for the both of us, and so on. Working in the soil is so grounding and relaxing, better than my personal therapist. So the two crazy Gay boys are out in the garden, also providing Music Appreciation, Bucelli, other forms of Opera presented by our out side speakers, both on the front and back of the house. The neighbors now get to listen to our music. Great for us, neighbors, not so happy. Oh well?
Stay in touch Boys and Girls,
Love,
Joe

New Beginnings with little time

I now dedicate this blog to all my friends to enable our group to keep in touch with our lives.

Well boys and girls, life has had it's us and downs, like the most of us. Weather here has been a little cloudy, but warm. Non in the 80's air conditioning is in full bore.
and Bereavement in today's Ia I has told some, I had a great time in NYC at NYU presenting a seminar on Traumaacademic environment. My seminar was split into two separate days to meet the numbers of students registered. I give you all my thanks and support and embarrassment of having flowers delivered in the middle of one seminar, 24 long stem roses, ?? Will/ Orr??? fess up. The students seem to enjoy my loss of focus. I stayed with my friend Orr, a writer in NYC. I was able to see several shows while in the city. And the cherry on top was the request to return to NYU next spring to give another seminar. And New School's request for the same seminar in 2 months, hopefully before I leave for India, and possibly Thailand. Dar fur is out of the picture till the violence subsides. So Doctors without Borders has pulled for now, but open to the future. I still have not heard from the Dean of Columbia who sat in on half of my presentation, but expressed strong interest in presenting my seminar there, time will tell, they know my spontaneous schedule with DWBs and travel arrangements. Still giving Pastoral Counseling at University Medical Campus. A new door has opened, one to the Children's clinic. This will be a very predominate clinic of many venues and I have been asked to be involved with the counseling center, not sure of the specifics or how involved, but I have agreed and will see what comes.
I hope all of you mothers had a great day, especially the women of the group.
Time to close, more writing to finish
Have a great day and please feel free to write here and let us know what you, are doing. again go to leiajoey.blogspot.com //use joebicejones@gmail.com PW denver
I look froward to developing this blog being as intended, filled with the memories of friends.
Joe (Syracuse)

I am alive!

I have had a rough few weeks. I know we are all fighting our battles I just keep asking myself when it will be enough! D finally made it back from his deployment Sunday night at 11pm. I had been waiting for him for almost ten days. On the 9th we lost one of our friends over there and it slowed D's return home. I was so stressed during this deployment that I broke out in a continous rash for almost a month. D is telling me that we may be out here for two more years. Work is being damanding like usual wiht more borderlines then I know what to do with and no time. I just dispise working with borderlines due to the vamperic nature of the interaction. I am always reminded by them that I will never be good enough. I am looking forward to getting some time to work in my garden this weekend. I am putting in a new garden in the back yard. I have been planning on doing this for a few years and finally I am going to do it. I have three doctors appointments on thursday to set up when I am going to have surgery so i will post after I do that. I hope you are doing okay. I know i have been bad at posting the past few weeks and I am sorry for that. Its been rough with everything that has been going on around me to get any time for myself. I seem to get so lost in taking care of my patients, kaiya, the dogs, my army wives, the house and so on that i loose myself. I finally got back into therapy and man is that been nice to have that one hour once a week just for me. What a concept right? I love ya. I send you lots of blessings and prayers.

The Inderpendence of emotion

The theory of interdependence allows us to develop a wider perspective. With wider mind, there is less attachment to destructive emotions like anger, therefore more forgiveness. In today's world, every nation is heavily interdependent, interconnected. Under these circumstances, destroying your enemy--your neighbor--means destroying yourself in the long run. You need your neighbor. More prosperity in your neighbor, you'll get the benefit.

Now, we're not talking about the complete removal of feelings like anger, attachment, or pride. Just reduction. Interdependence is important because it is not a mere concept; it can actually help reduce the suffering caused by these destructive emotions.

We can say the theory of interdependence is an understanding of reality. We understand that our future depends on global well-being. Having this viewpoint reduces narrow-mindedness. With narrow mind, one is more likely to develop attachment, hatred. I think this is the best thing about the theory of interdependence--it is an explanation of the law of nature. It affects profoundly, for example, the environment.

--from The Wisdom of Forgiveness: Intimate Conversations and Journeys by His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Victor Chan

These concepts spin within my head. From experiencing India, seeing a different focus of a non American nation, I see the American fabric sadly with leveled disdain. Most people don't comprehend that Eastern thought and theory is highly advanced, intellectually and practically. Westerners have ego, and arrogance and rarely want to see anything that conflicts with limited vi ewes, thus non acceptance. It is a deadly circle that many Americans chose to embrace, I am saddened and embarrassed at times being American, Many Americans need to travel out of the American bubble and experience how the rest of the world views them, many don't even care. I am saddened by these people that I am judged by also calling myself an American. I always add my Canadian heritage, It always deflects the contempt, Watching the State Dinner with Bush embarrassing himself again, with the Queen staring at him, feeling sadness or contempt, with grace. Always lacking with Bush, thus how our country presents America. Bush never fails to disappoint in any circumstance. England befriends us, for political capital, but they are revolted by us. I wish we could have many aspects of The British Ruling system. We are an theoretical society, with out any of the benefits of a fascist state.. I live for 2009 January,
Take a moment and jot a note?
L
Joe